15 KESILAPAN IBU BAPA DALAM MENDIDIK ANAK "Harta benda dan anak-anak kamu hanyalah menjadi ujian dan di sisi ALLAH ada pahala yang besar." (Al-Quran Surah At-Taghabun, 64:15) Anak-anak adalah amanah dari ALLAH s.w.t. dan ianya sebahagian dari ujian ALLAH s.w.t. kepada kita hamba-hamba-Nya. Sebagai ujian, ianya akan dipertanggungjawabkan. Orang yang malang ialah orang yang mempunyai ramai anak tetapi anak-anaknya tidak membawa kebaikan kepadanya di akhirat. Rasulullah SAW diberitakan telah bersabda : "Tahukah engkau siapakah orang yang mandul." Berkata para sahabat : "Orang yang mandul ialah orang yang tidak mempunyai anak." Lalu Rasulullah SAW berkata : "Orang yang mandul itu ialah orang yang mempunyai ramai anak tetapi anak-anaknya itu tidak memberi kemanfaatan kepadanya sesudah ia meninggal dunia."-(Maksud Al-Hadith )
Ini mungkin disebabkan beberapa kesilapan dalam mendidik anak-anak.
1. Kesilapan pertama: Kurang berdoa
1.1 Kurang berdoa semasa mengandung. Antara doa-doa yang digalakkan diamalkan semasa mengandung ialah Saidul (penghulu) Istighfar Doa memohon rahmat (Al-Quran Surah Ali 'Imran, 3 : 8-9) Doa memohon zuriat yang baik (Al-Quran Surah Ali 'Imran, 3 : 38)
Doa agar anak mengerjakan solat (Al-Quran Surah Ibrahim, 14 : 40-41)
1.2 Kurang berdoa semasa membesarkan anak. Doa-doa yang digalakkan diamalkan semasa anak membesar ialah Doa agar anak patuh kepada ALLAH s.w.t. (Al-Quran Surah Al-Baqarah, 2 :128) Doa diberi zuriat yang menyejukkan hati (Al-Quran Surah Al-Furqan, 25 :74) Doa supaya nama anak membawa kebaikan kepadanya.
2. Kesilapan kedua: Banyak memberi belaian Tarhib (menakutkan) daripada Targhib (didikan atau motivasi) seperti : menakutkan anak-anak dengan sekolah menakutkan dengan tempat gelap menakutkan dengan hutan rimba atau bukit bukaumenggunakan kekerasan dan paksaan semasa menyuruh anak tidur
3. Kesilapan ketiga: Tidak tegas dalam mendidik anak-anak tidak menjadualkan kegiatan harian anak-anak terlalu memfokuskan anak-anak kepada sesuatu aktiviti sahaja tanpa mengambil kira perasaan mereka.
4. Kesilapan keempat: Menegur anak secara negatif mengeluarkan kata-kata kesat dan maki hamun kepada anak-anak (terutama semasa marah). membandingkan anak-anak dengan anak-anak lain atau anak orang lain.
5. Kesilapan kelima: Memberi didikan yang tidak seimbang antara jasmani (physical), rohani (spiritual) dan minda (intelektual) ramai yang lebih mementingkan pendidikan minda dari pendidikan rohani
6. Kesilapan keenam: Kurang memberi sentuhan kepada semua anak-anak sedangkan Rasulullahkerap dilihat mendukung cucu-cucunya dan mencium mereka. Diriwayatkan oleh Aisyah r.a. : Pada suatu hari Rasulullah SAW mencium Al-Hassan atau Al-Hussien bin Ali r.a. Ketika itu Aqra' bin Habis At-Tamimiy sedang berada di rumah baginda. Berkata Aqra' : "Ya Rasulullah! Aku mempunyai sepuluh orang anak, tetapi aku belum pernah mencium seorang pun dari mereka." Rasulullah melihat kepada Aqra' kemudian berkata : "Siapa yang tidak mengasihi tidak akan dikasihi."-(MaksudAl-Hadith Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim)
7. Kesilapan ketujuh: Penampilan diri yang kurang anggun dan kurang kemas ibu bapa tidak menunjukkan cara berpakaian yang kemas dan yang menepati kehendak syarak bila berada di rumah, iaitu berpakaian secara selekeh atau berpakaian seksi di hadapan anak-anak.
8. Kesilapan kelapan: Susunan rumahtangga yang tidak kemas. Ini mengakibatkan anak-anak terikut-ikut dengan cara itu dan membesar menjadi pemalas dan selekeh.
9. Kesilapan kesembilan: Kurang menghidupkan sunnah di rumah seperti memberi salam, makan berjemaah, beribadah bersama-sama, dan sebagainya. Dalam menjawab salam, lazimkanlah menjawab salam dengan yang lebih baik dari salam yang diberi.
10. Kesilapan kesepuluh: Tidak menggantungkan rotan di tempat yangmudah dilihat oleh anak-anak. Dalam Islam, merotan anak dengan tujuan mendidik adalah satu sunnah.
11. Kesilapan kesebelas: Kurang mendedahkan anak-anak dengan modelyang cemerlang seperti para ulama' dan orang-orang yang berhemah tinggi dan berakhlak mulia. Anak-anak juga patut didedahkan dengan sembahyang jemaah, kuliah agama dan aktiviti-aktiviti yangbersesuaian dengan akhlak Islam.
12. Kesilapan keduabelas: Bertengkar di depan anak-anak. Ini akan menyebabkan anak-anak rasa tertekan dan membenci salah seorang dari ibubapanya.
13. Kesilapan ketigabelas: Membenarkan orang yang tidak elok sahsiyahnya masuk ke dalam rumah kita, baik dari kalangan sahabat sendiri ataupun sahabat anak-anak, kerana ini akan memberikan contoh yang tidak baik kepada anak-anak yang masih membesar.
14. Kesilapan keempatbelas: Kurang mengawasi rancangan-rancangan yang ditonton samada dari TV ataupun video. Pengawasan dalam hal ini adalah penting kerana kebanyakan rancangan dari media ini menonjolkan akhlak yang kurang baik seperti pergaulan bebas lelaki dan perempuan, pakaian yang tidak menepati syarak dan perbualan yang boleh merosakkan agama anak-anak.
15. Kesilapan kelimabelas: Terlalu bergantung kepada pembantu rumahuntuk mendidik anak-anak. Sebagai ibubapa kitalah yang akan disoal di akhirat kelak akan anak-anak ini. Oleh itu adalah menjadi satukepentingan kita untuk berusaha memastikan anak-anak terdidik dengan didikan Islam.
Sumber: diubahsuai dari Kuliah Mingguan Surau An-Nur, 10 Jun 1998 oleh Ustaz Khalid Haji Mohd Isa
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Download Buku Doa dan Zikir dari al-Quran dan Hadis
Assalaamu'alaikum
Ramai di antara kita yang sememangnya rajin mengamalkan doa-doa serta zikir-zikir. Alhamdulillah, ia merupakan amalan-amalan yg soleh
Namun adakah doa-doa dan zikir-zikir yang anda amalkan itu benar-benar diajar oleh Rasulullah saw atau hanya rekaan manusia sahaja?
Sekiranya diberi pilihan di antara doa dan zikir yang diambil dari al-Qur'an dan Hadis dan doa rekaan manusia, yang mana akan menjadi pilihan anda?
Jika anda memilih Doa-Doa serta Zikir-Zikir dari Al-Qur'an dan al-Hadis maka anda mesti download buku Hisnul Muslim karangan Syaikh Sa’ed Ibn‘Ali Ibn Wahf Al-Qahtani yang dianggap terbaik dan paling authentic ini.
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Selamat membaca dan mengamalkan doa-doa serta zikir-zikir dari al-Qur'an dan Hadis-Hadis Nabi
Sekian Wassalaam
Ramai di antara kita yang sememangnya rajin mengamalkan doa-doa serta zikir-zikir. Alhamdulillah, ia merupakan amalan-amalan yg soleh
Namun adakah doa-doa dan zikir-zikir yang anda amalkan itu benar-benar diajar oleh Rasulullah saw atau hanya rekaan manusia sahaja?
Sekiranya diberi pilihan di antara doa dan zikir yang diambil dari al-Qur'an dan Hadis dan doa rekaan manusia, yang mana akan menjadi pilihan anda?
Jika anda memilih Doa-Doa serta Zikir-Zikir dari Al-Qur'an dan al-Hadis maka anda mesti download buku Hisnul Muslim karangan Syaikh Sa’ed Ibn‘Ali Ibn Wahf Al-Qahtani yang dianggap terbaik dan paling authentic ini.
Sila ke alamat di bawah untuk mengdownload:
http://akob73. blogspot. com/2008/ 08/download- buku-hisnul- muslim.html
Selamat membaca dan mengamalkan doa-doa serta zikir-zikir dari al-Qur'an dan Hadis-Hadis Nabi
Sekian Wassalaam
What to Make of the Latest Good/Bad Vitamin News
What to Make of the Latest Good/Bad Vitamin News Not too long ago, many people were popping antioxidant pills -- certain vitamins, minerals, and plant substances (phytonutrients) -- with abandon. Antioxidants had earned mega praise as health insurance in a bottle, credited with fighting everything from heart disease and cancer to sniffles. Now, an analysis of 67 studies involving nearly a quarter of a million people says that big doses of these tablets and capsules are duds . . . at best.
Does this have anything to do with your mainstream daily multivitamin/mineral, which contains a wide array of antioxidants as well as many other nutrients? No. Don’t let the latest medical-study ping-pong match scare you away from a multi . . . much less from the phytonutrients in fruits and vegetables.
Truth is, when news organizations highlighted the 191-page antioxidant report, important details got lost. Two examples:
· Yes, beta carotene and vitamins A and E (all antioxidants) did raise the risk of death by 4% to 16%, but only in studies involving high doses -- more than 15,000 international units (IU) of A and 7,500 IU of E. That’s 3 to 300 times higher than recommended levels -- not smart. For instance, we know too much vitamin A increases your risk of lung and liver cancers, and bone weakening, too. (Choose a multi with fewer than 3,500 IU of A.)
· Meanwhile, selenium didn’t seem to affect the risk of dying, one way or the other. But as far as living well, selenium appears to lower some cancer risks and increase prostate health.
Also, while evidence against taking high-dose antioxidant supplements has been mounting, so has the support for eating lots of antioxidant-rich foods. One dramatic example: Taking supplements of vitamin A actually raises lung cancer risk in smokers. But new research has found that eating lots of strawberries, apples, beans, onions, brussels sprouts, and green and black tea -- all rich in antioxidants -- cuts the risk of lung cancer in smokers.
The likely moral of this nutritional story: All of us (not just smokers) need the complex cornucopia of nutrients in real food to fight cell damage and disease.
But since it’s easy to get too few antioxidants and other nutrients when you’re eating breakfast in the car, lunch at your computer, and dinner over the kitchen sink (we’re not recommending this, by the way; we’re just listening to what you tell us), we also believe it’s a good idea to take a mainstream multi as an insurance policy against a less-than-perfect diet. It’s also a good idea to divide it in two and take it twice a day -- it makes it easier for your body to absorb all those nutrients.
As for proceeding with caution with some antioxidants, here are our basic guidelines: 1. If you’re taking cholesterol-lowering drugs, be careful with vitamins E and C. These can inhibit the anti-inflammatory component of cholesterol-clearing statins such as Mevacor, Lipitor, Crestor, and Pravachol. While they’ll still lower your cholesterol, 40% or more of their benefits are anti-inflammatory, and you’d be missing out on those. Avoid taking more than 100 IU of E daily or 100 milligrams of C twice a day. (This flags another problem with these studies, by the way: They often involved medications that interact with C and E but didn’t limit the use of the two vitamins.)
2. If you’re facing cancer treatment, avoid antioxidant supplements entirely, unless your doc specifically tells you it is okay. They may help protect the cancer tissue, so they could make your treatment less effective.
3. If you want to up your intake of phytonutrient-rich foods (of course you do!), shop for fruits and veggies by color. The brighter and deeper the color outside (including deep greens), the more the phytonutrients are waiting inside. All-stars (in alphabetical order) include apples, bananas, blueberries, broccoli, carrots, citrus, cranberries, dark-colored beans (like black and kidney beans), figs, peaches, red cabbage, red peppers, spinach, strawberries, sweet potatoes, and tomatoes. Aim for at least nine servings of phytonutrient-rich fruits and veggies a day. A diet high in them can help your body combat cancer, heart disease, diabetes, and needless aging.
4. If you want a no-calorie way to boost your antioxidant supply, sip tea and coffee. Green and black tea as well as coffee are packed with antioxidants. We recommend more than 2 cups of each per day if you and your doc agree.
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Does this have anything to do with your mainstream daily multivitamin/mineral, which contains a wide array of antioxidants as well as many other nutrients? No. Don’t let the latest medical-study ping-pong match scare you away from a multi . . . much less from the phytonutrients in fruits and vegetables.
Truth is, when news organizations highlighted the 191-page antioxidant report, important details got lost. Two examples:
· Yes, beta carotene and vitamins A and E (all antioxidants) did raise the risk of death by 4% to 16%, but only in studies involving high doses -- more than 15,000 international units (IU) of A and 7,500 IU of E. That’s 3 to 300 times higher than recommended levels -- not smart. For instance, we know too much vitamin A increases your risk of lung and liver cancers, and bone weakening, too. (Choose a multi with fewer than 3,500 IU of A.)
· Meanwhile, selenium didn’t seem to affect the risk of dying, one way or the other. But as far as living well, selenium appears to lower some cancer risks and increase prostate health.
Also, while evidence against taking high-dose antioxidant supplements has been mounting, so has the support for eating lots of antioxidant-rich foods. One dramatic example: Taking supplements of vitamin A actually raises lung cancer risk in smokers. But new research has found that eating lots of strawberries, apples, beans, onions, brussels sprouts, and green and black tea -- all rich in antioxidants -- cuts the risk of lung cancer in smokers.
The likely moral of this nutritional story: All of us (not just smokers) need the complex cornucopia of nutrients in real food to fight cell damage and disease.
But since it’s easy to get too few antioxidants and other nutrients when you’re eating breakfast in the car, lunch at your computer, and dinner over the kitchen sink (we’re not recommending this, by the way; we’re just listening to what you tell us), we also believe it’s a good idea to take a mainstream multi as an insurance policy against a less-than-perfect diet. It’s also a good idea to divide it in two and take it twice a day -- it makes it easier for your body to absorb all those nutrients.
As for proceeding with caution with some antioxidants, here are our basic guidelines: 1. If you’re taking cholesterol-lowering drugs, be careful with vitamins E and C. These can inhibit the anti-inflammatory component of cholesterol-clearing statins such as Mevacor, Lipitor, Crestor, and Pravachol. While they’ll still lower your cholesterol, 40% or more of their benefits are anti-inflammatory, and you’d be missing out on those. Avoid taking more than 100 IU of E daily or 100 milligrams of C twice a day. (This flags another problem with these studies, by the way: They often involved medications that interact with C and E but didn’t limit the use of the two vitamins.)
2. If you’re facing cancer treatment, avoid antioxidant supplements entirely, unless your doc specifically tells you it is okay. They may help protect the cancer tissue, so they could make your treatment less effective.
3. If you want to up your intake of phytonutrient-rich foods (of course you do!), shop for fruits and veggies by color. The brighter and deeper the color outside (including deep greens), the more the phytonutrients are waiting inside. All-stars (in alphabetical order) include apples, bananas, blueberries, broccoli, carrots, citrus, cranberries, dark-colored beans (like black and kidney beans), figs, peaches, red cabbage, red peppers, spinach, strawberries, sweet potatoes, and tomatoes. Aim for at least nine servings of phytonutrient-rich fruits and veggies a day. A diet high in them can help your body combat cancer, heart disease, diabetes, and needless aging.
4. If you want a no-calorie way to boost your antioxidant supply, sip tea and coffee. Green and black tea as well as coffee are packed with antioxidants. We recommend more than 2 cups of each per day if you and your doc agree.
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